No offense, but…

"No offense, but..."

Don’t you hate when someone says that? It means they are going to say something offensive, doesn’t it? They know it's offensive, and say it anyway. It’s like a get out of jail free card. They’re supposed to get off free, while you’re left with the scars.

That phrase has some hostile cousins:

“You’re __________”, followed by “kidding!” (Not so funny at all!)

“You should know better than to take it personally! You know how I am!"

“You should know better than to take me seriously!”

“Geez, can’t you take a joke?”

“I’m sorry it hurt when I ____________ you.” (Note that the apology isn’t for the action, but for the fact that it hurt. It doesn’t imply the hitting won’t continue, either.)

“Sorry, but you _________.” (That means, I’m not sorry, and I blame you.)

Emotional and verbal abuse like this can leave lasting effects. If you are being emotionally abused, there are resources to help you:

Verbal Abuse, Emotional Abuse, and the Narcissist

Depression and Verbal Abuse

Stopping Verbal Abuse in Your Relationship

How to Manage Verbal Abuse

When Words Are Used As Weapons: Youth Can Prevent Verbal Abuse

Here is a list of books you might also find helpful.

If you are aware of other good resources, please leave a comment and I'll update this list. Thanks!

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